You are my sister!

I think that dealing with my singleness would be much easier if I didn’t know so many Godly girls. In Leicester uni CU there are loads of beautiful and Godly single girls, many of whom I spend a lot of time with and know quite well. It’s very difficult to maintain that level of “just friendship” with them, and very easy to let my mind wander into the realms of “what if?”.

On top of that through my Church I know a whole bunch of the girls at DMU CU who are also beautiful Godly and single. I think it’s often easier to let my mind wander with regards to girls who I don’t know so well and have less contact with. I guess that’s because I don’t know then quite so well and don’t consider them to be close friends, so it doesn’t seem like I’m “breaking the rules” in quite the same way.

My mantra recently seems to be “you are my sister, you are my sister!”. It certainly helps a lot to think of other Christian girls in this way, because then I am far less inclined to think about them in certain ways, and far more inclined to put their interests above mine in terms of how I treat them. In some ways it would be easy for me to try and “force” my way into a relationship by actively seeking one. But I don’t want to do that. As much as I look forward to being in a relationship, and desire that for myself, I also want it to be something that is based on God, and that he has layed before me.